Before I met her I was always attracted to girls that were slightly out of my reach. Girls whom society “told me” I should be attracted to. Girls who were more or less just arm candy, the type of girl that guys gawk at and hi-five you when you bring them to parties. I can’t be seen with “her” I would think, if I was with someone who didn’t measure up to society’s so called “standard” of beauty. The media has a way of tricking us into thinking we should have unbelievably high standards when it comes to finding someone, all the while we overlook the most beautiful people who are already in our lives. This way of thinking leads us into a never ending cycle of “friend zones” we can never escape from.
All that changed after I met her though. I didn’t care what “society” thought anymore. I just knew I loved her and that was all that mattered. She didn’t have to wear globs of make-up, or spend countless hours in front of a mirror before she went out like most “hot” girls did. She could just throw on a t-shirt and a pair of Chuck Taylors and still be the most beautiful girl in the room in my opinion. She never asked me if she “looked fat” or “does this dress make my thighs look huge?” because she didn’t care. She grew sexier and sexier the more I knew her, as most girls whom I thought were beautiful just did the opposite.
Most times it’s the things that are right in front of our face that are the hardest to see. We close ourselves off too people and experiences that we think society might look down on us for. It’s up to us to find the beauty that lies underneath society’s surfaces, the qualities in someone or something that that everyone else seems to overlook, but awaken our true desires. She showed me that no matter how good someones vision is, they can still be blind. And although she’s dating someone whom society might view as more “handsome” & “charismatic” at the moment, I’ll still always remember the valuable lesson I learned from her every time a “hot bartender” or “supermodel” turns me down.
